A divorce can end some unhappy and unhealthy marriages, and ultimately, can be the best solution for a struggling family. In the event that you are a parent, you likely are thinking of more than just yourself during this time. It is not unusual for parents to stay up at night worried about how their children are affected by their situation. Everyone can benefit from some ways to ease this familial transition.

At any age, separation can have a detrimental effect on a child. Children, regardless of age, sense when their parents are going through tough times. As a result, parents are encouraged to communicate openly and honestly with their children despite difficult circumstances.

If parents accept their decision and present it as a natural part of life, they can help their kids to overcome the difficulties. Here are some strategies for handling the challenges ahead:

 

Ways in which to help your child cope with divorce

Communicate honestly

The truth about why you are getting a divorce must be revealed to your children, but it must be simplified. Plan ahead and carefully relay information. Let the child know together, if possible. Provide information about the upcoming changes, such as living arrangements, activities, school routines, etc.

Help your child express their feelings

It is imperative to listen to your child. Acknowledge their feelings and encourage honesty. Discussing divorce may be an ongoing process. Make sure they know they have no fault in the divorce. Feelings of anger, sadness, resentment, or anxiety are normal for them. As time passes, this should gradually fade.

Stay involved in your children’s life

Without your involvement and time for your child, they feel unimportant. It is important to your child that both parents are involved in his or her life. You should always let your child know how much you love them. You should dedicate time to doing fun activities with your children or spending quality time together with them.

Keep routines intact

Create a consistent and well-structured approach. This provides your child with a sense of peace and stability during a time when other areas of their life are changing. However, do not allow them to break the rules or become complacent in their responsibilities.

Limit negative things said about the other parent

If you make derogatory comments about the other parent, your child will feel compelled to agree with you or choose sides. Don’t point the finger at the other parent.

 

Also, if you’re struggling, make sure you’re getting the help you need. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, talk to your friends and family about it, and ask for favours if you need them. People often want to help but don’t know how, so let them know if you need help with the shopping or just want to blow off some steam. If you believe you would benefit from speaking with a therapist, make an appointment right away. Remember that you can best support your child if you feel supported yourself.

 

How can we help?

We want to ensure that you can get the help and support that you need.

HAB Law’s specialist team is committed to keeping children safe.

We ensure the best resolution is reached for families.

We’re here to help and support you. And we’re ready to talk when you are.

Get in touch with us:

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